One
thing that was a bit of a shock to the system to a young man barely out of his
teenage years moving from Finland into Dublin was the presence of drugs (yeah,
I was blue eyed back then). I am not saying that Finland doesn’t have its own
problems, but especially in certain areas of Dublin it was very obvious,
strange and new to me. I soon became aware of the nasty side of heroin and the
effect it had not only on the user, but also their families.
What
shocked me was that I recognized something similar from my own past. It was
that mixed feeling of worry and guilt. Like you should do so much more, but by
trying to help you often just manage the situation. And as long as we manage
the situation, whether it is a substance abuse or alcoholism, which often are
ways to escape the real underlying issues, these issues never get dealt with.
These
people can be very charming and on their best behavior when they want something
and as a caring family member it might be hard to say no. It can actually get
to a point you get worried when you hear your phone ring or someone knocking on
your door… The truth still is that you cannot help someone who does not want to
help themselves.
The
guilt the loved ones need to go through is hard to explain to someone who has
never been there. The constant worry of when you are going to get that dreaded
phone call, the one you have been worrying about has hit the end of their road.
Even though somewhere deep down you were expecting it, it still comes as a
massive shock. I myself had to come to terms with the feeling of relief I felt
as I knew it was all over and that is one guilt trip that can mess the heads of
the strongest of us.
This
week’s song “On His Way To Hell” really is trying to look at that situation
from the loved one, s perspective, which too often is forgotten. They also are
the victims here, but too often brushed aside and forgotten about. I said this
before and I will say this again, don’t suffer in silence. There are people out
there who have gone through something similar and in my experience sharing my
story helps both me and other people.
If
this week’s song touches you or anyone you know please share it. Let it be the
voice to break the silence.
Once
again I had the wonderful Matthew Gillian helping me out with several tracks on
the new album and “On His Way To Hell” is the first one of them. Thank you
Matthew!
J.P. Kallio
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